Each ceremony is handcrafted to meet your needs. There is no point doing rituals that are not MEANINGFUL to YOU! I work closely with my clients to ensure we capture their needs.
Here are some common elements:
- Symbolically cut ties: cut a rope or cord, remove your wedding ring or blow out a candle
- Friends and family share readings or reflections on your strength through this divorce
- Forgive yourself & all involved
- Speak new vows: to yourself or children
- Take back your name: Put on a new piece of jewelry, friends repeat back your maiden or current name
- Share hopes and dreams moving forward
- Special rituals if children are involved: bubble blowing, gifts, vows, seed planting ritual
While they can be done involving both partners, typically it is one partner who invites their family and friends, but usually not their ex-partner. The focus is on acknowledging the challenges of their divorce, and celebrating what they have learned and the new life they are stepping into. Sometimes both ex-partners hold a ceremony together, especially if kids are involved, to acknowledge the change in their relationship and commit to moving forward as co-parents.